- Book Style: Parenting style book for parents of toddlers and children
- Reading Length: 120 minutes, 133 pages
- Author: Bernadette Mather
- Author Page: Amazon UK
Holding Hands is a toddler and child parenting book that gives its readers a very simple style of parenting. The style given is based on four principles and is intended to help us, as parents, build a better world through our children. The idea is that these four principles will create fewer adults with issues (such as low self-esteem, addictions, eating disorders, etc.), and more (children) who feel secure and happy. As you, the parent of a toddler, get through the book, you’ll see that your original instincts were the right ones and you’ve generally been led astray by social media and other sources of “parenting” methods.
Now, my little guy is out of the toddler years. He’s four now, and he’s moving into that kindergarten age. He’s growing up to be quite a rambunctious preschooler and he shows me everyday just how much he loves life. It’s a great place to be in, but I can tell you that we didn’t start there. We also didn’t spend our early parenting years thinking we were nailing this parenting thing out of the park.
We didn’t have the most successful (by current social media parenting guidelines) baby and toddler. We’re not even the most successful preschooler parents out there. See:
- He didn’t sleep 12 hours a night as a baby, or even as a toddler
- Formula (gasp) was used in our household
- We haven’t put him in music lessons, genius schools, or any sort of advanced scholastic courses
- Despite having read by this age myself, my child can’t read yet
Don’t get me wrong, my wife and I have read countless parenting books. We’ve had the “What to expect” books, the “for dummies” books, and plenty of others that promote styles well beyond my simplistic comprehension. For all their worth, what I’ve found is that both my wife and I have returned to a very simple set of basics. No matter what book we read, we’ve returned to simply loving our little man.
Why do I tell you all of this? Well, it’s because as I read Bernadette’s book, Holding Hands, I found myself feeling like I was getting some things right. I found myself understanding the basic instincts I’d had as a parent and learned to ignore through all this complex literature. As I read the book, I realized that the author’s method was so simple, and it vindicated me as a parent. I agreed with her four principles, and I agreed that they were easy to implement. I didn’t feel like I had to produce some massive plan after reading her book. I could just be me and remember that I loved my child.
See, that’s one of the guiding principles that Bernadette has given us: love. It sounds simple enough, and it is. It still takes work and the patience of a saint (have you met a toddler that didn’t take patience), but it’s relatively simple to do. Not only does she give us these principles, but our author also helps us to know how we can live by these principles at the different ages of our children. The book becomes a step-by-step guide that is easy to understand and to put into action. It’s so easy, I’ve been able to apply the fundamentals of it Day 1 (and 2 and 3 and 4…).
Having read tons of parenting books before this, I can safely state that this is a parenting book that is different than others. It’s so simple and that makes it so simple to implement. It vindicated my beliefs as a parent, and it has completely stopped me second-guessing my tactics as a parent. That alone is worth the ridiculously low cost (£8.00 on Kindle, £9.60 paperback) of this book. I’m sure that you’re feeling a little unsure right now about your parenting style. I’m sure that you want to improve. I’m sure that you feel a little lost. Well, stop it. Go with your instincts, and if you need a little help getting comfortable with those, head off to Amazon to get your copy of Holding Hands!
Thanks for reading…with your toddlers,